“I could always control my effort. I could always control how much I could practice.”
“If I worked more than the next guy, that would give me the best opportunity to play in the NHL.”
Key Takeaways: This week we had the pleasure of talking to NHL’s Colin Wilson of the Colorado Avalanche. Of course we got the lowdown on how he made it into the NHL and some insight into what it’s like playing at the professional level. However, you’ll also want to check out Colin’s raw thoughts on the importance of meditation and mindfulness.
- Recruited after his first year at Boston University to Nashville
- The people he idolized were now the people he was playing against
- Entering the NHL, Colin felt both fear and passion. You’re fearing not being able to make a career out of it, but the passion also takes over.
- One of the biggest differences of collegiate hockey and NHL is that NHL is very methodical and mechanical. There’s obviously immense talent on the ice, so there also has to be a level of strategic and methodic thinking to really be able to perform.
- Colin had a sports coach who gave instruction on thoughts, mind, and consciousness
- Colin went to Sedona with a friend and was introduced to a breathwork and static dance ceremony. Both definitely changed the way he thought, since he was able to access a new level of mindfulness
- Colin uses The Muse everyday – helps guide his meditative sessions
- There’s a lot of things that you can’t control, but meditation teaches you that in those moments you have to just “be”
- Hear about what Colin does to help take care of his body after getting beat up in games
- Learn about both Colin’s physical and mental routine
- The NHL league as a whole is getting younger, so it’s hard for the “older” players to know how long they’ll be playing and how it drives them to keep their game as high as possible
- Talking post – NHL – hear about Colin’s plans for the future
- “There’s nobody who’s giving to give you the answers outside of yourself.”
- Everyone is human; everyone is trying to figure out their own path.
- There’s a big difference between people who say “I have all the answers” and “I have people around me who direct me to inward thoughts.” You want to become your own guru, but you also need people around you to support you and guide you in that inward thought process.
“I’ve had to overcome a lot of struggles in my life, and a lot of people would look at me and wouldn’t think that.”
“Either you’re going to be complacent or you’re going to take action.”
“I’ve never been happier in my life because I know that I’m in control of my life.”
“You have to bet on yourself.”
Key Takeaway: This week, we chatter with Justin Murphy about how he was able to escape a dark path and turn it into one of success, motivation, and victory. Hear about his past and how he launched Justin Murphy Nutrition and iCoach Nutrition.
- Hear about his early childhood and teenage years and how a lot of what he did was a way to seek external affirmation
- He got in with the wrong crowd and started going down a scary, dark path
- “I was taking so many drugs that I just lost myself.”
- Hear the story of how Justin ended up in jail
- Justin got out of jail and ended up becoming a personal trainer
- Justin’s light bulb moment – his mentor told him he didn’t want to be a part of a bad-ass team; he wanted to create his own bad-ass team
- Making the decisions to just DO something is the most important step. Even if you get a “no”, that’s still progress. That means you’re at least doing something.
- A lot of us don’t really go after what we want because that’s pretty much all of us have been taught to be safe.
- Most people learn that after school, you work for someone else for 25-40 years and then you retire and that’s the way life goes.
- If you’re not able to go for it and give your passion everything you’ve got, you’re never going to be able to help other people in the same way that you want
- The people in the world who are most successful are the ones who have the best mindset
- You don’t have time for negativity when you’re trying to have a positive mindset. Don’t watch the news or gossip if you’re trying to fill your head with positive things.
- If you have a friend who can’t adequately celebrate your successes with you, then they’re not a real friend
- There’s a huge difference between jealousy and legitimate inspiration. A lot of people aren’t inspired by other people that are doing “better” than them. Instead, they have a negative attitude and are more jealous than anything.
- When you do the inner work, the outer work always follows.
CONNECT WITH JUSTIN:
“I had no idea who I was.”
“Why do I feel like my enough-ness are solely dependent on my accolades and achievements?”
“I’ve never had a voice; now I have a voice.”
“I never had a voice and I never spoke my truth.”
Key Takeaway: This week, we welcome guest Lo Bondi, who shares an authentic conversation about us regarding what it means to truly find yourself. Hear about the importance of awareness and learn how Lo was able to finally find her voice.
-“What I believe in wasn’t aligning with what I was practicing my competing.”
-She was tearing herself apart and contorting her body for a group of strangers, and she knew that wasn’t in line with what she believed and what she stood for. The overarching idea of self-love is what brought her away from the competing world.
-She knew in the midst of competing that it was a toxic environment, but she didn’t realize just how toxic it was until she finally stepped away
–[6:37 ]With awareness, you can make informed decisions and self-led decisions.
-Her tattoo: “And within her the chaos found balance.” – find out what this means to Lauren and how she was able to step away from disordered patterns
-You have to start by asking yourself the big questions.
-If you’re walking around and feel like even one thing if off or missing, it comes back to needing to create personal awareness to understand those feelings
-Look at yourself in the mirror, hold that gaze, and see yourself loving yourself
-People go through their lives without every listening to themselves, seeing themselves, knowing themselves
-Most people think you are defined by your relationships, your titles, etc. That’s not who you are.
-Lo gives humble insight to a previous relationship and how the unhealthy nature of the relationship was actually manifested in her physical body
-“Your body is profoundly wise and it’s always talking to us.”
-Find out why Lauren moved to Colorado and what she is doing now!
-I try to heal to the point of losing myself and losing my voice
-Hear about the philosophy of counseling according to Lauren and how her strongest talents and gifts are aligned with coaching and counseling
-If you can’t walk up to the mirror and look yourself in the eye, you can’t see yourself (truly SEE yourself)
-If you aren’t fully ready to show up for the work, nothing you try to do will stick.
CONNTECT WITH LO:
“I didn’t have a backup plan. I was all in.”
“I had to work hard, get my head down and just allow my actions and my performances to earn the right of a locker room.”
“Is this something I really want to do? Or is this something someone else expected me to do?”
“You never know who is watching.”
Key Takeaway: This week, hear from Mark Sloan about how he took a chance and left behind a successful professional soccer career to pursue his passion. Plus, you don’t want to miss an amazing story about a stranger in a coffee shop who gave Mark an amazing gift. Check it out on this week’s episode.
- Hear about how Mark started out in soccer and how he was able to start playing professionally at age 16
- Soccer was a risk – he traded in education and university for soccer. Hear about how this choice affected him and how failure along the way didn’t shut him down or stop him.
- His first big failure was when his contract was suspended at age 18, and even though it was a huge failure in that moment, it taught him so much and it made him learn more
- He was picked up by Belgium – this was the very first time he had ever left home.
- Hear about how there was constantly the need to juggle between locker room camaraderie and also fierce competition
- After experiencing living and playing in Belgium, he made a confident decision to go play and live in the United States
- “The first coach to reply to me is the first coach I’m going to go with.”
- You never know what will stem from one conversation or one thing you said to someone. If you’re not present in the moment, you can miss so many of these opportunities.
- “Am I doing it for myself or am I doing it for other people?”
- Mark confidently made the decision to walk away from soccer and instead focused on a brand new path
- Mark started Young Tribe
- One of the scariest things Mark has to face is being an Englishman in America – visa situations are tough and he never knows what the future looks like
- “Not knowing what the future looks like is making me live in the present more than ever.”
- Hear Mark’s story about a stranger in a coffee shop who gave him an amazing gift
- If you just believe something and put yourself in the moment, anything is possible
Connect with Mark:
Key Takeaways: This week Alex and Joe chatted about the importance of your mindset and how prioritizing positivity and finding likeminded friends is all part of creating a healthy mindset. Plus you’ll hear about the new leap and challenge that Alex is taking!
-When you’re surrounding yourself by people who are challenging you, the changes in your life that happen are incredible
-Alex shares that he’s moving from Portland to Denver and taking the leap in a new direction
-Look at it like a thermostat. If the people who are around you are at 90 and you’re at an 85, they’re going to raise you to their level
-“The purposeless route is more prone to addiction, and humans are no different.” – Jordan Peterson
-When you find people who are in align with their purpose, and their purpose is similar to your purpose, you connect on a different level than you would with other folks
-Everyone wants a definitive answer, but there’s no one size fits all. A more appropriate response should be “it depends.”
-Mindset is huge. The way you think about things determines how you will interpret life around you and take subsequent actions.
-One of the biggest things that causes anxiety is not being present. Anxiety arises when you think about either the past or about the future.
-Meditation is a great way to center yourself and to force yourself to be present in the here and now.
-Alex talks about what he experienced when he experienced his first anxiety attack
-When you’re not stepping out of your comfort zone, you won’t see change. Plain and simple. You’ll get caught up in what’s comfortable and you won’t be stretched.
-Your gut reaction is usually right. That’s you at your heart of hearts.
-“Are you happy?” People don’t ask that question nearly enough.
-Life is short. The amount of people who aren’t living their potential and are not happy with their life is the scariest thought to think about.
-Everyone has demons. Everyone has good and everyone has bad. Mistakes and bad thought patterns are part of us. Accept it, realize it, and then realize that you’re no different than anyone else. If you learn from mistakes and move on as a better person, then you learned from the bad things you did.